So what is normal? Well if I eat 5 Oreo's everyday and I find out Susie eats an entire package...she is obviously crazy, and the addict. Not me. However, if I were to stumble upon John, and it turns out he eats 1 Oreo a month. Either I will think he is better than me, because now the whole consumption of Oreo thingy has been brought to my awareness, or I won't be able understand how he lives without consuming 5 Oreo's a day and find like-minded individuals that will join me on my excessive cookie consuming endeavors. Which leads to my next point.
Co-dependency! At it's most sub-conscious level. Through experience, conversation and observing we define our own "normalcy." Subsequently, we seek out similar minded people and formulate opinions and lifestyles with as little contrast as possible. It's just easier that way. We feel as though we are lifting one another up, because we both have the same concept of what "normal" is when in fact we are pulling each other down. Limiting our awareness and perceptions with our own veils of "normalcy." I'm not okay; you're not okay-and that's okay.
We live in a world full of addicts, raised and taught by them from birth. With that in mind, our sense of "normalcy" is probably skewed somewhere down the line, right? Here are some examples:
Masterbating is normal, everyone does it! (probably an opinion you formulated at age 12 or younger, so props on that). There is a pill for every ill and surgery is always the best option! (Yes, because taking something out of your body and replacing it with, well, nothing is always favorable...also, proper diet and nutrition aren't important, because my doctor "doesn't believe in it"...well Doc, I don't recall asking for your personal opinions or belief systems, facts will suffice). Just to name a couple. So what is the solution?
The go to phrase would be, be present. Although very wise, easier said then done. I can presently be drunk tonight and every night henceforth...Here are some steps or ideas that may help.
Step 1) Figure out why you move.
- I move to eat, because I desire to feel full
- I move to have sex, because I desire to feel dominant, manly, wanted, release, etc.
- I move to consume drugs and alcohol, because I desire to feel empty, out going, cool, etc.
We see in others what we are blind to in ourselves. If you dislike something about someone else, chances are it is a reflection of your own habits, addictions or your perception is limited. Maybe you are addicted to pointing out everyone else's problems?
Step 3) Stop serving yourself
Any and every self-serving action, on a primordial level, is substance abuse. It is this reason why your significant other annoys you and the divorce rate is so high, you are simply being selfish, putting your addictions before another human being. If you made a vow or promise, your word is your bond, show some integrity.
Step 4) Quit being a victim
Realize now, that every circumstance you are experiencing is a direct result of choices that YOU made. If you take it to the extreme, believing that prior to visiting this planet you chose your parents, you literally can not be a victim to anything! So quit wishing you were Walter Mitty and go fight some sharks.
Step 5) Be a human being, not a human doing.
All forms of detox include removing the addictive substance. To recover from gambling, we must stop gambling. To recover from sex addiction, we must stop objectifying women, etc. If movement abuse is the expression of our addictions, then first, we must stop moving. Stop doing and start being. Don't lie to yourself and say you aren't addicted; be still and aware of the urges, ask for help and make a list of other dillusions you live in. Don't focus on conquering your addiction, you will only relapse quicker. Rather, enjoy each moment as the come. Help others in need. Go outside and be a part of the wonderful world we live in.